I was reading
this article on CNN, which tries to cite an example where cheating on your significant other was deserved (or at least you shouldn't be surprised if it happened) and it made me think about whether it really made sense.
Here are the cliffs (provided by CNN) on the article so you don't really have to read it:
• Writer says that if Jon Gosselin (from Jon and Kate Plus 8) cheated on his wife, she may have deserved it.
• Quotes blog that says Kate Gosselin humiliated, degraded, emasculated husband.
• Writer: Cheating isn't right, but neither is emotional abuse and neglect.
So even though the writer in the article doesn't really justify Jon cheating, she makes a point that, "If you push someone enough, it shouldn't be any surprise when you push him into the arms of someone else."
Personally, I have never watched the show, but quite a few people I know who has/does do mention that Kate treats her husband like shit. I agree with the writer that though cheating isn't right, why should anyone be surprised that Jon cheated on her (assuming that he did)?
What bothered me most was reading the comments at the bottom of the article, where some people were like, "if she was such a bad wife, you should just end the relationship, not cheat." I don't know who those people are or what rock they are living it under, but Jon does have 8 kids. He can't just pick up and go.
It also doesn't surprise me that Kate KNOWS that she's treats Jon like crap. Apparently, she doesn't care what people think, but what about what Jon thinks? She probably doesn't care about that either.
Anytime communication falls through, problems are bound to happen. I would never condone cheating and two wrongs definitely don't make a right. But what do you do if you were Jon? Everyone needs love.
Comments (37)
Pfff.... I am so tired of the Jon- Kate thing. I don't know. It's devastating to find out that your partner has cheated on you. I recently found out that I was cheated on and I retraced my steps and all to see if there was something I did that drove him to it. He said that it's nothing I did, he just 'gave into temptation', I guess. I don't know... I still love him, but just knowing that he was in the arms of someone else makes me sick to my stomach. I thought that what we had was different, but it turns out, it's just the same shit all over again. I should have stayed single.
But enough of my drama...
No one deserves to be cheated on. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. If the relationship isn't working you should talk about it. And if there is still no change, then I think the two people need to split up. Though Jon has 8 kids, things have a way of working themselves out. I wouldn't stay married if my husband treated me the way Kate treats Jon, even if there are 8 kids involved. My grandparents got divorced and my grandmother raised her 9 (NINE) children all by herself. So if my grandmother can do it, so can Jon & Kate.
It's a tough situation, seriously... from what we as outsiders can tell. You should honestly just watch the show for like a few minutes, and you'd see what people mean. I only could endure like 15 minutes of it... the woman is just... unconscionably terrible with him. Like, I wanted to reach through the screen and smack her.
Two wrongs don't make a right, but I don't blame the poor bastard.
I question their sincerity at times when they decided to sign on for another 40 episodes even with the tabloids hunting their every move. It's obvious there's a split between the two and you can tell the kids are acting differently because of it. It's like a train wreck except you ignore your instinct to not watch....
Even in his situation, as bad as it is, cheating still is not justified. New hobbies, more time with the kids away from their mom, something, anything else.......
I've watched the show from the beginning (because those kids are so darn cute!), and it's obvious at the end of last season that Jon has had enough of the entire show, and Kate was the one who pushed for a next season. (Apparently $75k per episode and a chance to get her own talk show, is more important than the well-being of the entire family...)
If I were Jon I'd put my foot down and say no more cameras. I'm sure those kids already have their college funds set aside from the book tours, talk shows, and reruns. It's time to put the focus back on the family, WITHOUT the spotlights.
cheating is never justified or "deserved". i was cheated on 3x by 3 different guys... did i deserve it? i dont think so. its just a matter of resisting temptation and having respect for the other person that you're in a relationship with. apparently the 3 boys lacked respect for me and couldn't resist the temptation of another cooch. sometimes people are too afraid to walk away from what they have so they cheat, hoping that they will never get caught. well, dont ever underestimate a woman's intuition is all i have to say :o)~
as far as jon & kate, kate is just a straight up bitch. yes, there are children involved and it just makes the situation that much harder for both the parents & the children. i would try couples counseling first. if that doesnt work, then maybe separation. i think i'd rather hurt & break away from the relationship and share custody of the children than let them watch us fight/bicker at each other. in some ways, splitting up may be healthier for both the parents and the children because they wont be caught in the middle of a crossfire. its not easy, but its probably LESS detrimental.
This is possibly why everyone needs to draw away from their life and live their own.. and make their own mistakes.
I still feel sorry for this family although all I ever hear of them is through Xanga.
Cheating is cheating. No one deserves it. Even if your wife treats you like crap on national television.
relationships take a lot of work, yo. you can't take the s.o. for granted coz they will leave your ass one way or another.
Cheating isn't right no matter what. Even if the other person does mistreat you, then why would you want to lower yourself to their standards.
HOLY CRAP, NEW LOOK, NEW LAYOUT, NEW PROFILE PIC!!!!
It's the new, improved Ray!
i understand that kate treats john like a kid, but if you ever watch the show, he's not proactive with the children. before he lost his job, he would work a normal 8 hour day plus drive time while she's at home with 8 small children. i would be frustrated with him too if i was her, but it doesn't give him the right to cheat on her.
what can he do? he has 8 kids.. and a contract with TLC. you're right -- two wrongs don't make a right. anyone who has seen their show knows that she treats him like shit. i'm not surprised that he was caught 'cheating'.. poor guy. i don't condone cheating either.. but someone like him who has probably been deprived of emotional/physical affection for a very long time.. breaks at one point or another. poor kids..
I'm over Jon and Kate but I feel bad for their adorable kids. She is so disrespectful of her husband, belittling him and yelling at him in public. Cheating is not right but I think that when your SO is cheating you know or have a sense of it...and if you treat your SO like Kate treats Jon then you shouldn't be surprised when it happens but it still isn't right. BTW, I like the new profile pix!