The girlfriend will be having dinner with my parents this weekend. I called my mom last night to tell her that I was bringing home my girlfriend and her response was, "finally bringing her home to see me?" She thinks I'm holding out on her! Surprisingly, she didn't ask me any questions except what she likes to eat. I guess she didn't have her long list of questions on-hand at that moment.
Meeting the parents is a pretty big step in the relationship. I haven't met E's parents yet, but I'm planning to next month. I'm sure I'll be liked. All my friends' parents like me. Besides, I have a month to prepare for all the possible interrogation questions that will be thrown at me.
Imagine the responses were like, "Yes we have unprotected sex." "No, we don't care about being parents at such a young age." "Yes, I'm unemployed and live on food stamps." "No, the food stamps are only for me." I'd have my gun cocked under the table if I was meeting my daughter's boyfriend.
I'd definitely be one of those dads that will straight up threaten the daughter's boyfriend with castration. "Do you know what a eunuch is?" Mental note to self--knives and gun collection to be showcased in the living room.
I asked E if she was ready and she said she was, but still nervous. I told her there was nothing to be nervous about. I assured her that my parents would like her. They are some of the nicest people you would/could meet. They only terrorize and torture their own children.
Have you met your significant other's parents yet? Were you nervous? Do they like you? Do you like them? How about your parents and your significant other?
I wonder if anyone ever thinks relationships are easy.
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well, i've met a few of my SO's parents. they all liked me ;). nothing should or could go wrong. your lady will do fine. as for you, you'll be great with her parents as well.
don't worry so much. this is all a good thing, right?
awww..t'was sweet. Hope y'all will have fun during dinner. I'm sure your parents will like her :)
When I was meeting my SO parents I was scared shitless. I was a half black/ half PR chick meeting a white dudes (who had never dated outside his race) parents. To top it off we met playing world of warcraft. That never sounds good when you explain it to someone. I had no idea what was going to go down. LOL
Good luck on your meet and greets..
P.S I adore them and I think they like me.. lol My parents both passed away 8 years ago so nothing to report there.
She's just lucky the in-laws aren't like the in-laws I know of.
meeting the parents of your lover is not easy to deal with, unless you love your fiance..
Gluck K
parents love meeeeee
hahaha, eunuch... hilarious. i wonder what it would be like to have an overprotective dad. mine was as unoverprotective as a dad can get. didn't he care about the thugs i was dating?? lol. have a good weekend, rayray!
i haven't met my SO parent yet. but im sure i will be chicken nervous like your gf too.
I actually first met my boyfriend's mom when she walked into his room and I was laying in his bed... wearing his shirt and boxers ....whoops.
Hahaha, but his parents like me! :) I was never really nervous, I just use my cute Asian charm. Whenever we visit his dad's restaurant in Chinatown, he puts on a giant grin and asks what I want to eat, aww!
I always think it's funny when guys talk about how THEY would act when they become a father and are meeting their daughter(s)' bfs. hehe
My s/o can't wait to be a father so he can punk his daughter's bfs too. LOL!
my SO was nervouse meeting my dad. but not so much my mom. but they love him and said "he's so polite!" i'm scared shitless to meet his this october. non english speaking traditional japanese parents meeting their son's white/blond/american SO.......scary!!!
and did i mention i don't speak japanese?
Wasn't it recent that you've announced your status has changed from single to in relationship or have I been out of the loop? Anyways, big step and I'm sure she has nothing to worry about!
It's funny... 3 out of 4 exbfs ended up meeting my parents within the first 2-3 months of relationship. Either it was unintentionally: they were dropping me off and my parents were on their way out, or they brought me flowers and mom answered the door, or intentional: my dad wondering why the guy wasn't invited to be looked at, etc. And although the guys were pretty stable in their mental state, I was nervous as heck. My parents liking my S.O. means quite a lot to me, I guess I was freaking out.
Other parents LOVE meeting me; my exes' parents were fine with me, in fact they told me they liked me more than their own kids because I had an "old soul" and etc, like you pointed out, I think parents are usually 'evil' toward their own kids. But after my last serious relationship (my parents thought THAT one might be The One), I decided I'm not going to invite the next guy over until it's pretty damn close to being 'the one' stage. They got disappointed it didn't work out and that's additional pressure I do not need in a relationship. But GOOD LUCK!! I'm sure it'll go awesome, you make sure you make all the appropriate jokes when things get heavy, don't gush about her too much (your mom will remember all those details later on) and make fun of yourself because that ALWAYS takes the tension off...at YOUR house though, not at hers..
E??? did she have a name change?
not easy but good luck.
My bf had never brought anyone home before me, so it took him over 5 months before he brought me home. I had baked some apple pies for his family and brought them for my first visit. (He is the youngest of 7, so one pie would not have been enough.) His mom asked a lot of questions while his dad sat back, closed his eyes, and listened to the conversation. Apparently his dad can tell what type of person someone is by listening to them speak. Ever since then, they've loved me--quite possibly more than they do their own son.
Actually, his entire family--both parents, 6 siblings, 7 nieces, and 1 nephew--loves me. His oldest sister once asked her two daughters whether they thought I or my bf was cooler. They both looked at their mom, "of course auntie Tina!" Anytime his nieces go somewhere, they always ask if auntie Tina is going as well.
As for my bf... well, I never brought him home when my mom was still alive. She'd met him under different circumstances once, but I never told her anything. After mom passed away, bf just came around for every family event and dad just accepted he was my bf. My dad is not the type of guy you can communicate with. Hell, he got married in another country, never told us, and simply emailed my oldest sister saying, "oh, btw, I got married."
Anyway, meeting the parents is a big step. Good luck. I'm sure you will both be loved.
why stress so much? it isn't as bad as it sounds. my fiance's parents LOVE me. oh, yes, i'm engaged at sixteen (i'll be seventeen this month). his parents support us. they love me like their own. hell, i practically live at their house.
my parents love him, too.
it's great. don't worry!
some reasons why i fear to connect *_*
I am waiting for my "meet the parents" experience
I am excited to say that I will be meeting my bf's parents for the first time this month when we fly to visit them (we've been dating for a year). I usually meet them a lot sooner... but when they live far away... what can ya do? However, Im super nervous... because well... I know Asian parents love me... but this will be the first time that I am meeting caucasian parents.
Dont know what to expect.
She shouldn't be nervous. She should be herself and you need to be by her side majority of the time. Give her some alone time with the folks and see how she can hold it on her own :)
it's kinda tricky for me coz i would introduce my "dudes" to my parents before things got serious. if they didn't like them, i would stop seeing them. straight up.
now, however, im a lot more cautious and hardly even let out a peep about who im dating until im pretty sure where it's headed. im pretty wary when it comes to meeting my s.o.'s parents/family if im not ready to bring him home to mine.
that said, i havent met too many parents, but the ones i've met adored me.
I've met my boyfriend's parents before he met mine. I was really nervous, but it was a very informal meeting. I came over to their apartment to hang out and met his parents. They're very nice and I like them. It seems like they like me too. My boyfriend met my parents in the beginning of June. They invited him out to dinner and they think he's very nice. I think he was nervous and thought they would interrogate him, but they didn't. I already told them most of the things they needed to know. This is actually the first time my parents have ever met a guy I dated.