So a friend of mine (Friend A) is dating the Ex-gf of another friend of mine (Friend B). Friend B and the Ex were together for about 3 years during college and she has a lot of mutual friends. A couple of years back, she began dating another one of Friend B’s friends (Friend C). Before any other thoughts go through your head, I would like to add that she’s a really nice and friendly person and I don’t personally think she does it on purpose to make Friend B uncomfortable.

Anyway, so what happens is that both Friend A (Ex-gf’s current boyfriend) and Friend C (Ex-gf’s previous boyfriend) both knew Friend A pretty well and out of respect, both notified him that they were going beyond friendship with his Ex-gf. I thought this was the right thing to do. It’s not about “asking for permission,” but more like giving a “head’s up” out of respect. If one of my friends wanted to date any of my Exes (sp?), I would like them to let me know. I think it’s weird when a friend dates anothe friends Ex, but I understand that things happen.

So what happens then is Friend B sends a text to both his Ex and Friend A and says something along the lines of, “As awkward as it is, I wish both you guys the best–my only request is that you two keep the PDA at a minimum when I’m around. Thanks.”

Personally, I think that to be an extremely reasonable request. I think Friend A thought so as well. In fact, I think most guys would think so. However, his Ex-gf does not think so. She doesn’t feel it’s right for Friend B to make such a request. Yes, they’ve had a history together, but it’s way in the past. Friend B reasons that he’s not comfortable that his friends are dating his Ex-gf, but will not do anything to stop it since it’s not his place to.

The most interesting part is that Mrs. jigg also agrees with the Ex-gf and thinks Friend B’s request of “minimal PDA around him” is out of line. She doesn’t think that a friend dating another friend’s Ex is weird at all. I think that’s crazy, but it led me to wonder, is it only a guy thing?

Ladies, can you chime in and comment on this matter? If say, your friend dates your Ex-bf, how would you feel? If you were “okay” with it, does it mean that it’s not weird to you?