August 12, 2010
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Wedding rings
One of the toughest decisions next to where you want to get married is what kind of wedding ring to shop for. The future Mrs. and I were first looking for matching bands, but realized that we couldn’t agree on the same thing.
I’m not a fan of yellow gold bands, but it would be so awesome if I got the Ring of Power (from LOTR) as a wedding band–with all the engraving and everything. Obviously, Karen wasn’t too happy about it, especially since she didn’t even like the movies, which I think crazy not to.
It’s tough for guys. We want something we like, but sometimes we get blocked by our future half. I mean, it would be so awesome if I showed off my ring around, but I’d probably only get props from the geeks.
The next best thing I saw were solid black bands. Both Karen and I think the black bands look pretty awesome. Even she wants one. However, she wants her band to match her engagement ring, which means it has to be either white gold or platinum.
I asked my friend who is a jeweler about mismatching wedding bands. Surprisingly, she said she has only sold ONE pair of matching bands, ever. I then asked her about titanium and tungsten, two metals that come in black. Tungsten carbide (an alloy) is stronger than titanium and virtually scratch resistant. Great for guys to play sports in. Titanium is the hardest natural metal, as well as the lightest. You don’t even notice it if you wear it because of the weightlessness.
The only concern would be if there was an emergency and they had to cut it off your finger, these two metals don’t come without a fight. They need special scissors to cut through these rings. I don’t anticipate needing them to be cut off my finger, but you never know.
In any event, I might go with the titanium even though the tungsten is stronger and shinier. I like that it’s lighter, which allows me to pretty much do whatever I want and never have to take the ring off. On top of that, it’s hard enough to open beer bottles, so it’s good enough for me.
What kind of wedding band do you want? Do you feel that you have a say in what kind of ring your significant other wants? What are your thoughts a out the Ring of Power? Should I just ignore Karen and get it anyway (which would be hilarious!).
Comments (49)
OMG, THE RING OF POWER AS A WEDDING RING?????
That is SO epic, it’s not even funny. *I* want the ring of power, man!! Nevermind that it’s symbolic of the greatest evil ever to befall Middle Earth which can only be destroyed in the evillest of evil fires in the scariest places ever to prevent it from enslaving you….
Oh wait, that’s perfect for marriage. ^_-
(seriously, I’m a giant dork so… I’d probably get like… that, or a planeteer ring hahaha)
I suggest that you ignore Karen. If you give her what she wants now, you’ll never be man enough to stand your ground later on.
POWER RING!
The one ring would be cool…
My husband and I got our rings in matching metals (white gold), but not matching rings. He loves his ring. It has a coin edge and looks masculine. He was deciding between that one and one that had a rounded fit on the inside for super comfort. In the end the ring with the edge was comfortable enough. For me, it was more important to be able to wear my wedding ring and engagement ring together. Considering it now, my rings could be more comfortable.
I can understand the difficulty of finding a wedding ring that both of you like. I guess the only part of your post that really bothered me was this sentence: “It’s tough for guys. We want something we like, but sometimes we get blocked by our future half.” I think marriages are tough for both sexes, not just guys. Sure, women tend to get what they want more, but they worry too, and sometimes they have to make sacrifices. I’m sure you know that already, but that sentence just rubbed me the wrong way. lol.
Considering the jewelers said that it’s rare for them to sell matching wedding rings, do you and Karen really need matching ones? Why not get different wedding rings with a same engraving or something? That’d be cute, and neither of you will sacrifice too much :)
@lilxwunxnxluv - lol. I think you are confused. Karen and I are not getting matching wedding bands. As I was saying, she is getting a white gold or platinum band that will match her engagement ring and I am probably getting a black titanium or tungsten band.
As for that comment that rubbed you the wrong way, I think women care more about how their husband’s wedding bands look, to the point where they have at least some say as to how it should be. That’s virtually NEVER the case with the wedding band for the bride. Why is that? Why is it that the groom has virtually no say in the bride’s wedding band, but the bride has say in the grooms? You think that’s fair?
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lol You should totally get a mock ring just for kicks and then present her with the real thing. XD haha Or I’m just evil that way.
Incredibly happy for you, Jigg. I recall a post of yours way back where you talked about your future wife and the daughter you would have.
Now it’s all happening. Congratulations. =)
P.S. I personally love the princess cut.
karen doesn’t want you to have the LOTR ring because it’s the “one ring to rule them all”… and well, you know she’ll be wearing the pants in the relationship. ;)
be sure that it can come off easy enough, size wise, but not to easy (so it can be lost). An uncle of mine lost his finger because of that. Congrats on your wedding btw (new reader)
Most men don’t wear their rings, so tell her if you get the LOTR one, you’ll promise to wear it always.
I haven’t given it much thought. I don’t care for yellow gold either and would like a white gold or platinum ring myself. Either of your metals sound good, although I’d probably go with the stronger one.
My mom wears her wedding band all the time and has a really tough time getting it off. Let’s just say her most recent technique involved soap and butter. O___O
i was thinking ring pops
but ring of power would be EPIC
Good question. Something very simple, I think. I wear a lot of silver small band rings and have as long as I can remember so I think that would fit my style. Perhaps with small diamonds on it or one small diamond. I remember we tossed around the idea of tattoo’d wedding rings before and thought it was interesting.
first of all, hilarious on ur last sentence. second of all, interesting how you thought about having to cut it off your finger. A lot of surgeons don’t wear rings, partly because they’re always scrubbed in with gloves and my friend also told me that part of it is because it can get caught on something and tear your finger off. So apparently what some surgeons do is make a cut through the ring so that if it gets caught on something, the ring will come off first before tearing off your finger lol. not sure how many actually do this tho.
we didn’t get matching wedding bands, but we stayed in the same overall feeling of the rings which was kind of antique/romantic. luckily i have a man who didn’t have any desire/opinions in picking out wedding bands. he just put it on and since it looked good, he didn’t object.
Dude, f that. Get the ring of power. She gets an engagement ring, you should get to have your ring of power. Tell her you’ll call it your precious.
@supanamja - H, don’t cause conflict between the lovely couple!
you don’t need to get matching bands but something that has a similar aspect to it might be nice. a friend of mine, they had different bands but the same thing inscribed on the inside.
@petitetokio - Myyyyyy preciousssssss!!!!
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@jigg - I guess my idea of matching wedding bands is that both should have a say. If I was getting married, I wouldn’t want my future husband to wear a ring that he doesn’t like. And that just might be me, so I wouldn’t mind him critiquing the band I want if he doesn’t want it (and, in return, he doesn’t mind my opinions either.) So I guess when I read that sentence, I felt like it was unfair for both parties because it feels less like a marriage (and I felt like it was saying that women are really possessive of their ideas of what a wedding is/isn’t when both parties should have a say.)
And if you guys aren’t getting matching wedding rings…I shouldn’t see like the LotR wedding band would be a problem…? (Because I think that’d be awesome, and you’ll just HAVE to post a picture of it!)
you should get the rings from Captain Planet.
The titanium ring looks pretty wicked, if they made a female version of that (I saw some pictures, it all looked like male rings) I’d totally go for that kind. And if they could get the jewel encrusted into the ring and not sticking out, even better!
if anything, i think my future hubby might get a green latern ring to match with his super hero wedding -_-;
@SieLuNgJuNfAn - Captain planet wouldn’t be as hot as Ring of Power. Green Latern ring would be, but it’s also bulky. Kind of tough to pull off at a corporate meeting.
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I just enjoy reading Ur posts lol when me and my husband picked our rings I picked mine and he paid for it I let him picked his and I paid for it lol he got a dark grey tungsten. I think most women care too much about it or they think it should cost a lot when it doesn’t lol I love my ring and it didn’t cost 1000 or more I can’t even wear it right now because of the pregnancy. Anyways I know this has nothing really to do what u were saying but I think u should get whatever u are gonna like because Ur the one wearing it lol
Ring of Power, man. You’re the one that’s going to be seeing it all day every day anyway.
Tungsten carbide= my friend for that for his wedding ring… and its so wicked! he got it its this shiny thing and strong too.. He said his friend was in a accident once.. and the ring saved his hand from being crushed badly.
Jewelers try to scare you from buying tungsten bc it’s so cheap. They make no money off of them. Think about it, in what sort of medical emergency would you ever need to take your ring off? Let alone, what are the chances that it wont come off???? seriously? It might only happen if it were a matter of life or death, and I would say, take my finger, but spare my life. My husband got one and I got a platinum ring to match my engagement ring. In my field of work, my rings get dirty in a major way. So my husband bought me an everyday type tungsten band from china for less than $30. It wont scratch! I love it. Btw, platinum and titanium scratches like a mofo!! its annoying. Our tungsten rings are still shining after nearly 3 years, while my platinum rings are all scratched up. BTW, the Ring of Power idea is awesome!!!
Being a total geek and one that never wears rings at all, when the subject of engagement came, my soon to be husband asked me what I wanted for my “engagement ring” as he was sure it wasn’t going to be a normal one; so I told him to get me The one ring with the engraving and the gold chain to go with it… and to forget about buying another one, we could use the same for engagement and wedding. And you know what? It’s LEGENDARY… He actually got another one for him and we are planning on exchanging chains instead of rings. *grins*
My point is… you are who you are, you know? If you are a geek and want a ring of power, then get one!
also when you get old and fat and the ring is just too tight
wow. black bands sound pretty awesome.
i can’t decide on wedding band perhaps something like this knot ring (first picture) but i already own that so NOT COUNTED.
anything the groom wants for the wedding band BUT he got to sell lungs/kidney/liver for what i want for engagement ring .. by then i’ll marry a corpse.
Probably white gold for my bf/fiancé. I think I should have some say but it’s really up to him..it’s decision..I want him to be comfortable with what he wears etc;
Take this from someone who is married 27years and who’s husband never wore his wedding ring. Spend as little money as possible. Take a nice trip instead. Save up to buy a house. You will spend over 150 a week in diapers and formula when the kid comes, save up.
I think the first few years of marriage, the girls wants to wear both the engagement and wedding ring, so to have it be a mismatched color would be a little odd, albeit cool. I think black on silver/white gold color would be cool, but it would also stand out alot. you can always get her an anniversary ring in black later on =)
My husband and I have unmatching wedding bands. Both are platinum, however. It all depends on your two styles, we realized that he likes one style and I liked another. I wasn’t even hung up on if they matched or not. It only mattered that my husband would like his band and would wear it with pride. Get what you want, why not?
Just forget the wedding bands. My parents have both been perfectly happy for 30+ years without one.
When you mentioned about an emergency where they’d have to cut the ring off your finger, I instantly thought of my dad. We were in a car accident many years ago and they did have to cut his wedding band off his finger before operating on his hand injury. I guess that may be the last thing that comes to mind when picking rings, but you are right, you never know. Fingers are very important in everyday life! For some people they’re even one of their critical “assets” in their profession.
Regarding the choices, I will side with Karen on this one.
ahahahhaa… thanks for the stat about the mismatched ring. The soon to be hubby and I picked out mismatched bands too. I got mine that matched my engagement ring perfectly…and his was completely different. Not even from the same store. Also, my wedding band was not the same brand as my engagement ring… my engagement ring is a Tacori ring… and to get the matching band… woulda cost $4000. My matching band from another place only cost… $1200 and double the diamonds… lol. If you look through my pics youll see the rings.
I say get what you want. It’s something that you plan to wear everyday, then you would have to like what you are wearing or else you wouldn’t have bought it. Get the LOTR wedding band right that you want. Or get whatever the ring that makes you happy. I feel that Karen loves you enough to marry you, the ring shouldn’t matter.
ODDLY when they say diamonds are a girls best friend, I don’t care for diamonds. I wouldn’t know a real one from a fake one. who cares for bling anyways? lol I see it as the most important thing is you are marrying the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. That’s all that matters. Not the ring.
our wedding bands didn’t match , it didnt matter to us what the other wanted but then again we like simple plain things.
I’d vote for the Ring of Power.
Is it super important to her that rings match? Can she compromise?
my husband wanted the ring of power as well, but i would only agree IF the writing does only appear when put in the fire just like in the movie. i felt that otherwise it wasn’t as cool and just be a corny prop. we ended up with titanium rings and absolutely love it!
ahahaha that’s hilarious. My bf and I are looking into wedding bands as well. When he tried some bands on, they looked weird. Guess he’s not used to wearing jewellery
Another thing to keep note with tungsten carbide and titanium is that the rings cannot be resized. Not that you’re going to balloon up the size of the goodyear blimp.
Based on your description, go with the titanium. Or something that allows for versatility. I haven’t thought about what kind wedding band I’d want yet. That’s #5123 on my list.
Ring of Power! Do they really sell that?? I would so want that…too bad it wouldn’t turn you invisible when you wear it though
Wow, the One Ring FTW (:
Good grief! That whole “cut finger off” is a myth EVERY hospital in the world has tools to cut through titanium, tungsten, plutonium, anything, and everything.
The black tungsten is the choice for my hub.
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