June 27, 2011
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A woman’s touch
Wedding planning with Mrs jigg is really an eye-opening experience. While we discuss our thoughts, the process is much like how we decide on anything–do want you want, no compromises. We divide up our responsibilities and put our own touches on things. Anyone that knows us knows that we’re nothing alike.
While I have assumed probably 80% of the responsibilities, based on our talks, you would think that our roles were switched. I breeze through all my tasks such as finding and booking the location, meetings with the caterer and figuring out the logistics so everything runs smoothly, Mrs jigg is trying to beautify everything–basically putting a woman’s touch on this event.
What is this woman’s touch really? It’s taking something, anything, regardless of how simple or complicated things are and making it about 10x more complicated. Like instead of a guestbook, she plans on doing a wishing tree. The whole idea of a BBQ wedding is about the people versus the event itself. While I envisioned a wedding that people would just have a great time, Mrs jigg has a vision where people would think about how pretty everything is.
As her husband, I’m not going to stop her. In fact, this whole thing is the perfect way to show how the two of us approach anything in our lives together. You cannot imagine the difference in demeanor between us. While I am relaxed and have everything thought-out and ready, Mrs jigg is really stressed. This was the reason why I decided to do most of the planning. She would probably suffer some kind of breakdown because of her want for details. As for me, I told her that while her touches would enhance out wedding, even without it, it would still be awesome because 1) it’s a BBQ wedding and 2) we are in it. Chauvinistic and very arrogant, but in my opinion, nothing says awesome like BBQ and being around the people you care about. Unless of course, you’re vegetarian or vegan.
EDIT—This is the first time I’m using the editor through Safari on my iPhone and it sucks–formats are not saving. Why isn’t there a Xanga app again?
EDIT 2—Had to go on a computer and make the format edits. Sucks that my iBlogger app is crashing. Might actually have to blog on a computer until I can get that app working.
Comments (12)
a women’s touch? i hope that’s a typo ray leeeeeeeeeeeeee – that’s being said, you’re right, women do stress over the details and those are the things that are overlooked in the guy’s wide picture way of planning things. it’s the attention to detail that make a difference though. let her do her thing, she’ll pleasantly surprise you in the end.
It’s taking something, anything, regardless of how simple or complicated things are and making it about 10x more complicated.
Obviously said by a man. Hahah. Good luck with wedding planning, sounds like a headache.
@miss_prettyinpink - lol. The wedding planning isn’t really a headache for me at all!
-ray leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
@petitetokio - Definitely a typo. I had it right in my entry! lol.
Anyway, of course I’m going to let her do her thing. It’s her celebration as much as it is mine. =)
-ray leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
i smell a beatdown headed your way.
lol, you’re right. Things are not that complicated!
First off, congrats.
Throughout the planning of our wedding, my husband had to remind me that the most important part of this whole thing was that we were uniting as husband and wife. Nothing else. I began to stress way more than what was necessary and it became more of a chore rather than something pleasant. Sure, we wanted to entertain and wine and dine our guests… the ones who’d be there to help celebrate the happiest day of our lives… but once I was reminded that all that would matter is that I’d be marrying the love of my life, I stopped obsessing over every little detail.
@miss_lyrical - I didn’t know you were married already! Congratulations to you!
-ray leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
i think the wedding day is much more important for the bride than the groom. you could ask her when she first started thinking/planning out her future wedding day. maybe that’d give you some perspective on why she’s so stressed about the little details. i’d be interested to know too
It is nice to see a guy helping out to such a large degree. Surely a lot of guys help out, but it seems like one never hears about it.
And in case you weren’t aware, look for any iPhone app that supports metaweblog api. Xanga natively supports it. I’ll find which app I found best, but my phone is not charged at the moment.
i think the wishing tree is a star. could make a simple one with a big size plant (just an idea), it would sure look beautiful… make her dream come true jigg.. anything to be happy right =)
I am also having a bbq wedding, I think a woman’s touch is trying to make sure that everyone that comes to my wedding, regardless of background, has a great time, and is also in my global sense of family, happiness, and zen . Namaste
p.s. the bride